Relax. This is a safe place. It is time to come home.

You are something rare and precious, a bearer of the greatest gift. You are a submissive woman.

This is not an easy thing to be. Our society values individualism above all things. Ironically this same culture will deny you the right to dispose of your own freedom as you feel fit and will thwart you with guilt and political correctness. I can help you here..... There is only one thing that is less politically correct than being a submissive woman and this is being (like me) a dominant man.

You are entering a confusing wonderland where the meaning of things are reversed. You are seeking powerlessness but will find liberation. You are seeking a Master but find true respect. You may well be frightened of your own desires and needs. Do not worry about this. If you find the right Master he will protect you from yourself. Remember that you remain in control of your own submission. It is your gift to give. 

You may not wish to announce your nature to the real world for some time (or possibly ever) but at least you have my acceptance and understanding.

I am asking you to make a commitment to yourself. Hit the link and let me know that you have visited my site. There is no need to tell me anything about yourself unless you wish it.

Yes! I am a Submissive Woman.

The beauty of being a girl.

Why do the politically correct so hate girls? What is the difference between a woman and a girl? It is not age. A woman can be a girl at any age. Being a girl is a vocation.

A girl is honest about the effect she has upon other people. Both women and girls take trouble to make themselves attractive but the girl does not abuse this power. People of both sexes feel good in her company and tend to do well.

Girls know that happiness does not come from owning things, or other people.

Girls enjoy being useful. This is not weakness or dependency, it is a universal human need that only the strong can admit. Mean spirited people will mistake it for weakness and try to take advantage but mean spirited people are generally weak and fearful themselves. A dominant man will recognise your warm heart for what it is and treasure it.

Girls are more sexual than men. A man lives a non sexual life, concerning himself with practical matters. He often thinks about sex but remains a non sexual being most of the time. A girl is entirely sexual because there is nothing about her that is not a celebration of her sexuality. She dresses, walks, talks, breathes sexuality.

There are two tasks that must be carried out in any healthy society. There must be people who create and there must be people who civilise. Testosterone drives men to change the world. We have a natural affinity with machines and systems of all kinds. We can hardly look upon anything without wishing to improve upon it. Unfortunately this creative force can turn destructive. Young men in particular can be so driven to make an effect upon the world that they are driven to destructive acts. Girls should be very careful which men they admire and encourage as men will do almost anything to please a girl. If girls like 'bad boys' then this is what boys will be.

A generation of boys and girls have grown up fatherless. This has taught both sexes that decency and hard work do not pay. The father may work day and night to pay the mortgage but he loses everything when the mother tires of him. This decent responsible man may be replaced by a man who does not work at all.

This teaches both boys and girls that nice guys come last. Boys from such a background are likely to become criminals while girls move from abusive relationship to abusive relationship. Boys have been robbed of the civilising influence of family responsibility while girls are robbed of the support of a decent and kind man.

Girls (in the adult sense) can help break this cycle. They are natural healers and civilisers and bring out the best in men. There is a lot of healing to be done.

Finding your Master.

How much would I pay to buy this woman? Everything I own and anything I can borrow!

Your Master will not demand submission. He values the gift far too highly for this. He wonders if he is worthy of something so precious.

The first act of submission is to allow yourself to be truly seen and accepted by your Master.

Many black submissive women desire white owners and may have slavery fantasies. She may find these too close for comfort and needs a caring and sensitive owner.

Oh, you may be wondering where these images come from. Some underground pornographic artist perhaps? They are from a school of painting called 'Orientalism' that is mostly about projecting European fantasies on to foreign lands. In many of these paintings the slaves are rather young and anyone photographing such a scene would be looking at a prison sentence. Fortunately Orientalism is 'art' and exempt from such laws. The fact that we can all pretend that these poor girls are not enjoying themselves also helps.

We must be living in a very confused society when it is OK to depict a woman being enslaved or beaten provided she does not enjoy it. It must be the pleasure, rather than the enslavement that is the crime.

And they call us confused.... 

Diary of a Working Girl.

7.30 am

Judy prepares for work. She tells herself that she is fortunate because she has most of the things the women's magazines say that she should have. She has a good job and a nice flat. Nevertheless she tends to ask herself if this is all there is to life. She would like to find intensity but wonders where it can be found in the 21st century. She wonders if this intensity may be found by having a baby, but cannot find a man that interests her. She wonders if this is because she does not really need a man for anything? Perhaps she is just too self sufficient? Perhaps it would be easier if she were to be shipwrecked and forced to cling to someone out of need?

Western society values equality and independence above all things yet fails to recognise the need of the individual to find meaning in something greater than themselves. The established churches offer some satisfaction, as do political parties and even football but none truly satisfy.

Other solutions include joining the armed forces, destructive cults such as Scientology or even drug addiction. All of these options simplify an individuals life and offer an intensity that normal life does not have. None are the basis of a healthy society.

Judy is looking for something or someone to commit to. Unfortunately it is not acceptable for men in our society to demand anything from women, least of all obedience and so this need remains unfulfilled.

10.30 am

Kevin is asking Judy if she is feeling OK. Kevin is a nice guy, good looking too but Judy is dismissive of him. She feels bad about this but cannot help herself. If only Kevin would stand up for himself a bit more then she could respect him, but Kevin had always been treated badly by women and so he had become used to it.

Judy would be shocked and thrilled if she knew the source of Kevin's excessive niceness. Kevin was a genuinely good man but was troubled by sexual fantasies by which he would punish women who treated him badly and then fuck them to prove his ownership of them. In his dreams the women loved this but still he remained troubled and tried all the harder to prove he was decent.

Judy had her own fantasies and her own worries. She would fantasise about being sold as a slave and bought by a man who looked like Kevin. Her owner would strip away the part of her that she did not like and expose the real Judy who was a loving girl. Any disobedience would be met with the most thrilling punishments!

Submissive women should learn that it is OK to submit to nice men.

01.00 pm

Judy has lunch with friends. Subject - men.

Her friends seemed to believe that all men were bastards and yet still pursued them. Judy knew that this was not true and that Kevin would never hurt her. Why did women always make the wrong choices?

07.00 pm

Home at last to a tidy flat and the latest home furnishings. Judy had a secret that she would share with nobody. She was corresponding with a prisoner on death row. She had no illusions that she could save this man, or form a relationship with him yet she found him interesting in a way that Kevin was not. Why was this?

A death row prisoner in the USA can expect to receive letters from about 500 women. This number may be even greater if his crime involves the rape or killing of women. Submissive women do not need to look for powerful men in such places. A submissive woman can submit to someone who can truly by trusted with power over her. Someone like Kevin.

The Compass.

How can a submissive woman tell the difference between healthy submission and an abusive relationship? Fortunately there is a very simple way of doing this.

When an aeroplane becomes lost in cloud the pilot may become disoriented. If he relies upon his sense of up or down, left or right then he will crash the plane. This is rather like being in an abusive relationship. You feel like shit and you may even become convinced you have mental problems because you have lost all sense of what is normal or decent behaviour. This causes the abused partner to accept things that nobody should ever accept.

A wise pilot will find his way by being clear about which sources of information he can rely upon. He will ignore his own senses and fly by instruments even if they conflict with his own sensations.

Someone in a bad relationship should ignore their tendency to accept responsibility for everything and simply look at their progress through life. Are they feeling better about themselves or worse? Are they happier? Are they failing or succeeding in life?

A woman in the grip of an abuser will be going downhill in all areas while a woman who is owned by a good Master will do well.

There are no exceptions.