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Can Hypnosis End Bulimia?
by Bryan M. Knight, MSW, PhD.
The short answer is yes. The longer
answer follows....
Bulimia (usually defined as binge
eating followed with laxatives, vomiting, diuretics or compulsive exercise
to purge the body) is a life-threatening malaise.
There are several theories about why
people become trapped in this cycle of self-abuse. These fall into three
main categories:
Each, of course, is intimately linked
with the others. Hypnotherapy helps on the individual level which in turn
can influence the family and social aspects.
It is not society's fault that a particular
person is bulimic. However, society certainly reinforces their dilemma...How
does it do this?
Through its emphasis on food and thinness.
Did you ever watch television and not see a commercial for
food? Or read a magazine and not see an advertisement for
food?
Yet the cover of the magazine most
likely features a very thin woman. And on television you'll see skinny
models on infomercials for weight loss.
So society says thin is good - yet
promotes junk food. On top of this, we receive the message that some foods
are "bad" and others are "good."
Similarly, drinking alcohol is adult.....drinking
alcohol is dangerous.
These contradictions lay a foundation
of inner conflict. Especially for emotionally vulnerable adolescents.
If you eat "bad" foods, you feel guilty.
If you force yourself to refrain, you feel deprived. No wonder some people
turn to stuffing themselves, and then vomit out the guilt.
It often seems that society is telling
us we can't be thin enough. Not surprising then, if you try to be as thin
as possible, as if to gain validation from outside. Or, if overweight,
feel unaccepted, and unacceptable.
All of society's contradictions are
further underlined in the school system. We teach children (especially
girls) to be compliant, rather than independent. We do not teach children
to question, to think critically. We teach them to conform - and to regurgitate!
Family
A lot of people with eating disorders
come from families which have difficulty to express emotions. It may be
that the parents bury their own conflicts, or it may be that their religious
or cultural beliefs preclude speaking openly about emotion.
Whatever the reason for the restriction
of open expression, the result is often that the children absorb the family's
silent pain. And one way in which a child deals with this unexpressed pain
is to punish herself through the misuse of food.
Abuse -- emotional, physical, psychological
or sexual -- within the family can also be a cause for an eating disorder
later in life. The child, now grown up, continues to perpetuate abuse only
now in the form of harming herself physically, psychologically and emotionally,
through binging and purging.
In both lack of expressed emotion
and overt abuse, the child's body expresses the family's dynamics.
Individual
Bulimia may begin as a person's reaction
to the fear and sense of loss of control when a mood disorder such as depression
occurs. When this is the case, treatment of the biologically caused mood
disorder is essential - another reason to involve a physician.
More often, bulimia is an ineffective
way of responding to the social and familial cues described above. Or to
other events.
Anything that causes severe emotional
pain may lead to a person using bulimia in a frantic attempt to regain
a sense of control. There may be a single originating trauma such as an
abortion, divorce, rape, death of a friend. Or the psychological or emotional
pain may have come from a series of traumas. Or even from an intolerable,
ongoing experience such as a dispiriting marriage, or having grown up in
an alcoholic family.
Some individuals become bulimic because,
after years of being givers, they tire of always pleasing others but don't
know how to deal with their frustration and resentment.
Yet another possible cause of bulimia
can be that your feelings were not validated. That is, when you felt angry,
for example, you were told it that it was wrong to feel that way, or that
you were selfish, or even that you didn't really feel angry.
The resulting confusion (because of
course, you did feel angry) would likely result in you turning the anger
and frustration inward.
Since you had been taught not to
express your emotions through words, or to trust your own feelings, one
way to deal with the resulting sense of badness or craziness would be to
overeat - and then to purge the guilt and shame.
Most bulimics think in "either-or"
terms. This leaves no room for the acceptance of mixed emotions. For example,
most people have mixed feelings towards their parents. But a bulimic would
likely condemn herself for even a fleeting thought of disloyalty or anger
toward a parent. Either you love, or you hate. Either you are good, or
you are bad. Either you are thin, or you are fat. Either you eat well,
or you eat badly.
Such thinking prevents a person from
self-understanding and self-acceptance. It goes along with the uncritical
absorption of television commercials and magazine ads. It keeps the bulimic's
self-esteem at a low level.
Symptoms
In a futile attempt to soothe herself,
the bulimic falls into a see-saw ritual as she tries to regulate the opposing
tensions of emptiness and guilt.
Shame increases as the physiological
effects of either overeating or malnutrition take effect.
The ritual of binge/purge can also
be seen as a sad attempt to exercise control in what may be the only available
arena in the bulimic's life: her body.
Often, though, the body image is distorted.
Where others see emaciation, she may see obesity. Desperately, the bulimic
comes to define herself through this preoccupation with food and size.
Self-esteem can be very low because the bulimic can never be thin
enough in her own eyes, nor good enough in her own estimation.
There is, of course, a constant preoccupation
with food and weight. This focus serves to protect the bulimic from facing
the buried unacceptable, or terrifying, emotional conflicts within her
or within the family.
Prescribed, or illegal, drugs to lose
weight may exacerbate the physical
damage and the shame.
These symptoms are not the problem.
They are just that, symptoms. Hypnosis can be used to deal not only with
these symptoms, but with the underlying problems which give rise to the
symptoms.
Hypnosis to get to the Cause
Hypnosis provides a quick route to
the cause of an individual's bulimia. This is because hypnosis allows direct
communication with the sufferer's subconscious. And the subsconscious knows
what is at the root of the problem.
Sometimes this is a single event (terrifying
sexual abuse, for example); more often there is a series of traumas or
conflicts. Each such event builds on the previous ones until the psychological
torment becomes intolerable.
Bulimia can then been seen as both
a way to exercise control over out-of-control feelings, and as a scream
for help.
There are several techniques that
a competent hypnotherapist is trained to use to help bulimics tackle the
causes of their suffering. None involve gadgets or touching the client.
They may include relaxing music but they are basically verbal. They concentrate
on encouraging the bulimic to use her imagination in a creative manner.
To the subconscious, all events, imagined
or actually experienced, are "real." This is a wonderful attribute of the
mind.
It means that the bulimic can take
some traumatic event that has deeply upset her and, in her imagination,
re-write that event so the movie in her mind turns out the way she would
prefer.
This results in her subconscious holding
the two versions of "reality". The second gives relief to what has become
popularly known as the "inner child."
It is not that the traumatic event
is wiped out. The conscious mind still knows what happened. But the negative
emotional impact is diminished. The person no longer needs to purge.
She is freed from the self-punishment.
Hypnosis to Deal with Symptoms
Symptoms, apart from the major one
of purging, vary from one person to another.
Hynotherapy enables the bulimic to
imagine herself behaving differently. Thus, the people-pleasing bulimic
mentioned above, who is tired of always being a giver, could use hypnotherapy
to imagine herself instead dealing with her rage and resentment in constructive
ways.
Freedom from the need to purge can
be encouraged with post hypnotic suggestions. That is, suggestions
given while you are in hypnosis but which take effect after the session.
Usually more than a post-hypnotic
suggestion would be necessary to eliminate bulimia. Even the most powerful
post-hypnotic suggestions fade over time unless there is reinforcement
(by yourself or with the therapist) or a profound change in lifestyle.
A main factor in the healing of a
bulimic is the attention and validation offered by the therapist to the
person seeking help. So, even without hypnosis, simply enjoying the experience
of the professional encouraging and endorsing your feelings, is therapeutic.
What hypnotherapy offers you is a
method to continue the healing by yourself.
Psychotherapy while you are in Hypnosis
"Either - or" thinking -- characteristic
of bulimics -- permits no room for the imperfections we all possess. Limited
thinking prevents a person from self-understanding and self-acceptance.
It's a mind trap with only two gates. It ignores the reality that we can
choose to add as many gates as we wish.
"Either-or" thinking is the delight
of the sponsors of televison commercials and magazine ads. They can more
easily persuade a limited-thinking viewer that such-and-such a food is
"good."
Or, conversely, that you should feel
guilty about eating this other product because it brings pleasure to your
palate, and fat to your face. Thus is the uncritical-thinking bulimic's
self-esteem kept at a low level.
The "either-or" thinking pattern of
most bulimics can be transformed by using cognitive therapy while you are
in hypnosis. This simply means the therapist helps you to think more clearly,
with a wider variety of options than you have been used to. Also
to question, to be skeptical.
This happens more quickly when you
are relaxed in hypnosis than it would during ordinary psychotherapy.
Such a change in patterns of thinking
allows for the acceptance of mixed emotions. And for the evaluation of
what others tell you. Ultimately, critical thinking makes freedom from
bulimia possible.
Hypnotherapy can increase your self-control,
your self-liking, your self-esteem and therefore, your self-protection.
Hypnotherapy provides a safe,
healthy way to soothe yourself.
Distorted body image is characteristic
of the bulimic, who often feels she cannot be thin enough. Hypnotherapeutic
techniques can gradually help her adjust her perceptions to reality.
Similarly with unexpressed emotion.
With hypnotherapy, you can unlearn messages the family may have implanted
about keeping feelings in. You can learn how to safely express emotion,
instead of stuffing it down and purging it out.
In the therapist's office, relaxed
in hypnosis, you use your mind to allow yourself to feel, and to imaginatively
rehearse the safe expression of emotion. This purging of emotion in a safe
environment can translate into your not needing to purge food. You have
undercut the need for the metaphor (food-purging) by experiencing the reality
(emotion-purging).
You can also use hypnosis to give yourself
post-hypnotic suggestions about eating normally, being free from the urge
to purge food, being in control in healthy ways, etc.
In addition, you could use hypnotherapy
to provide yourself with a "trigger" -- a word, a gesture, or an image
-- which automatically stops you from harming yourself.
Hypnotherapy can help you use your
inner strengths to stop your body being the vehicle which expresses your
family's disturbed dynamics.
Hypnotherapy can also strengthen your
resolve to be your own person - to resist the impact of the diabolical
and paradoxical TV and magazine advertising which advocates both food and
thinness.
Ultimately, hypnotherapy helps you
achieve what all psychotherapy seeks: that you attain enough independence
to trust your own judgement, and retain enough interdependence that you
contribute the most to society that your unique personality can offer.
Hypnotherapy does this by enabling
you to tap into your subconscious resources, and thus to strengthen your
self-control.
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